Why do women have to put certain things on to be considered sexy?

And weird things too, fishnet stockings, a bustier that does little for support BUT is covered in lace! Or feather boa’s, heels that could not actually be worn outdoors or for longer than an hour. Women have to put certain accouterments on to be considered sexy — while men take things off. At the very least, they put on a pair of boxer briefs (which look pretty damn comfy). But women strap themselves in to clothing that they wear for no other purpose. And it seems that a good portion of women would be disturbed if their male partner waltzed in wearing fishnets, heels, and a boa. It would be off-putting. So why is it considered so damn sexy when women do it?